“What’s wrong with him?”
…sometimes seems to be what people think who find out I’m still single at 30 — especially in the state with the youngest average first-marriage age in the country.
“Here’s what you can do to fix yourself…?”
…sometimes follows. There must be something I’m doing wrong that’s kept me from getting married (or being engaged… or having a girlfriend for that matter). And somehow it’s diagnosable within minutes of someone finding that out.
I wish it were that easy.
If there were a formula (stop being so picky; give people more chances; go on a date every week; this woman I’m setting you up with is going to be your wife…), I would be married by now, because I’ve tried every single one ;)
Is it possible that there’s nothing wrong with me?
That’s what I’m here to say thanks for… Some people don’t come from a deficit-based perspective. And it’s a wonderful thing :) I’m grateful for friends, family, acquaintances, and strangers who don’t have marital status as a condition for accepting me.
I’m happy with who I am and where I’m at.
That doesn’t mean I don’t want to be married or that I’ve given up trying. I want to, and I try. But I want to be happy, just like everyone else… And I don’t want something only partially in my control to be a condition of that.
Thanks to everyone who supports me being happy single!
p.s. Check out these views from the Church Office Building and Joseph Smith Memorial Building in Salt Lake. I was there for a training this week.